Welcome to our 10TH EPISODE! WOO-HOO!! We're super excited for this and next week's episodes, since we get to debunk a craaaaazy rule: you can't actually run away to the circus. (PROTIP: You totally can!)
For us, debunking this rule means a couple things:
- You CAN actually run away to the circus! And we're going to have a guest next week who will tell us all
about his experience doing exactly that.
- You can (and probably should) quit that job you hate to ...
- Pursue that crazy passion/dream/idea!
We'll start by taking a look at some signs that you may want to consider leaving your job. Next, we'll talk through some of the excuses people tell themselves to stay in these unsatisfying jobs (taking them down one by one, naturally). Then we'll give you some ideas for what to do if you DO decide to quit the job you hate and do something wonderful!
As always, have a listen and tell us your thoughts at facebook.com/rarpodcast!
NOTES + RESOURCES:
16 Signs It's Time to Quit Your Job
- You're bored all the time. "If you're no longer challenged in your position and have tried communicating with your boss to no avail, this may be a sign that it's time to leave," says Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert, leadership coach, and author of "Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant."
- Your skills aren't being tapped
- Your employer's goals and your personal mission don't match up
- You've got the boss from hell (most people quit bosses, not jobs)
- You feel like you can't ever win: In a LinkedIn post, Robert O'keane, an international search consultant for Charles Francis Cooper, warns against ignoring the feeling that you can never win at work. "Your job should make you feel exhilarated and challenged — like you are succeeding in something, rather than like you are fighting a losing battle and not achieving anything," he writes.
- You're not growing (even if you basically like what you do)
- You always watch what you're going to say: Sallie Krawcheck, CEO and cofounder of Ellevest, confessed on LinkedIn that she's stayed in a few jobs that she probably shouldn't have. One of the signs it was time to quit she says she ignored was that she thought — and rethought — every word that came of her mouth. If you can't be AUTHENTIC in your job, it's time to look elsewhere.
- Your company isn't invested in you (or your engagement in the work and business)
- You worry about money - all the time: If the company doesn't agree that you need to be paid consistent with your workload, then it might be time to find a company that doesn't make you feel like they're doing you a favor by paying you, Taylor says.
- It looks like layoffs are coming (there's no reason to go down with the ship)
- You can't picture yourself at your job in a year (which is about how long it can be to find something new - so start looking!)
- You've got serious trust issues: If you don't trust your boss or company because you believe they engage in unethical activities, or worse, expect you to partake, you know it's time to go, Taylor says.
- You're burnt out: The physical, emotional, or mental exhaustion from work can manifest themselves in a number of ways, from significant weight gain or loss and inconsistent sleep patterns to getting upset by every little thing that's happening at work. "Stress, fear, or lack of enthusiasm can drain your energy and hurt your performance, creating a lose-lose proposition," Taylor says.
- You dread Mondays
- You can't laugh out loud at work
- You just know: If you've been actively researching job listings, talking about quitting for some time, and you feel it's the right thing to do — even if you're scared of the unknown — it may be time to listen to that little voice and go for it.
Top 10 Excuses for Staying in a Bad Job
- #1 “Things might get better”: On the other hand, things might also get worse. Or they might not change at all. If you’ve already done your best to improve your job situations and nothing’s happened, just waiting around for things to improve by themselves make little sense.
- #2 “My boss is such a jerk but if I quit now, he wins.” - who cares. This is your life, not a competition
- #3 “I’m not a quitter.”
- #4 I'll never get another job: Well not if you stay in your current job while it slowly grinds you down, you won’t! Move on now while you still have some self-confidence, motivation and energy left.
- #5 “If I quit I’ll lose my salary, status, company car, the recognition of my peers, etc.” - but what is the price of staying IN a job that makes you this unhappy?
- #6 “Everywhere else is just as bad” - That’s just nonsense. There are plenty of great workplaces in every industry.
- #7 “I’ve invested so much in this job already” - Quit anyway. Staying on is just throwing good time after bad.
- #8 “I’ll lose my health insurance.” - start looking for another job with similar benefits (or other options to help you through the transition. Also, ask yourself what good job related health insurance is if your job is actually making your sick – which bad jobs can absolutely do.
- #9 “My job pays very well" - great. Use that financial security to take a risk on something that will actually make you happy.
- #10 “Quitting will look bad on my CV” - Whereas staying for years in a job that grinds you down and goes nowhere will look excellent.
- I have yet to meet a single person who quit a crappy job only to wish they’d stayed on longer.
How To Leave An Unsatisfying Job And Pursue Your Dream Career
- take advantage of opportunities offered by your current job that will prepare you for the job you want (such as paying for tuition, helping you finish your degree, continuing education, even therapy or life coaching through health insurance!)
- starting small doesn't mean starting slow (you may still have to pay dues in the new industry - but you can work smart and hustle and move up faster. Don't let having to move down the ladder stop you from doing what you love. Better down the ladder for a brief stint than a lifetime of stagnancy.)
- teach yourself what you need to know. Make friends with google, with the library, with people who do what you want to do.
10 Things to Know Before Quitting Your Job to Follow Your Dreams
- 1. Discover your purpose. (My note: doesn't mean you have to have a lock on your life's passion. Could simply mean that you want to take a look at why you aren't satisfied, so you don't end up in the same situation. Figure out some of the things that drive you, challenge you, and keep you interested - then look for work that meets those needs, or create it!)
- 2. Money may bring temporary happiness: You should know that money (aka a raise you get to keep you from leaving) can only give you momentary happiness, but will not raise your job satisfaction level. So if your main purpose for wanting a new job is more income, have you considered getting a side business? Or start freelancing on weekends while you work at your current job or in the new one?
- 3. How you quit your job matters.
- 4. Have you informed your colleagues? While your boss feels it's their role to inform the rest of the team about your departure, some of your colleagues should hear about this from you first. It's a way to strengthen your relationship with colleagues you will be keeping a relationship with outside of work.
- 5. You still need to be professional. Up until you hand in your resignation letter, the way you perform at your current job will determine how your current boss will speak of you to their colleagues.
- 6. You need your current boss's blessings. (My note: this isn't always true, but it's generally better practice to build bridges than to burn them. If they like you and you've been a professional, they will likely wish you the best and may even help you make new connections!)
- 7. Seek satisfaction outside of work. (Including getting enough sleep!)
- 8. How much do you know your new employer? it's also important that you find out if working with someone makes you feel good. A good place to start is checking what people are saying about them on Glassdoor.
- 9. Do you have the right experience for the new offer?
- 10. Handing over to someone you trust.
How to run away and join the circus in 10 easy steps
- 1. Quit your job
- 2. Hit the beach
- 3. Hit the gym
- 4. Go to school (or get a coach) - Montreal’s National Circus School
- 5. Start a YouTube channel - There are no world championships of poi spinning — which involves swinging around balls of fire attached to chains in each hand — so top marks go to whoever has the most online fans.
- 6. Travel
- 7. Laugh in the face of danger
- 8. Sit still - focus on the act, on what you want, on getting your makeup done
- 9. Get into character - Miya, a former junior national gymnastics champion in his native Japan, says he had to get used to combining acting with athleticism while performing on the high bars as a frog. “At the beginning it was hard to do both,” he says. “I have to think about the tricks and what to do next but at the same time I have to be a character.”
- 10. Get gigs
You Hate Your Job But You're Scared To Quit
- You have to ask yourself what is more frightening – the thought of being miserable day after day at a job you hate, or the thought of a job unknown?
- Now stop and consider the alternative view. What if a new job with another company turns out to be awesome? What if your new boss actually cares about helping you succeed? What if the new company values your skills and talents, and even rewards you for them? What if this new job led you to wake up happy and excited to go do a job you love every day? What if that is the description of the unknown?
- There are only two options: You can either change your circumstance by finding a new job, or you can change your attitude about your current job.
- “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” – Maya Angelou
- 1. It’s easier to get hired by a new company while you are still employed by your current one. New employers like the fact that you are currently employed because it says that another company values you enough to keep you on board. It also lets the new employer feel they are winning a competition between themselves and your current employer by hiring you away.
- 2. Make a list of the things in your current job that influence your feelings of misery. Is it the duties you perform, or the people you work with, or the industry you’re in? Figure out what you disliked so you can seek out companies that differ in those key areas.
- 3. Make a list of the people you know who might have leads about new jobs.Networking will almost always be your best option for finding a new job. Often times you may even work with a vendor or a customer who might make an excellent new employer for you, so consider every avenue.
- 4. Money should not be your primary driver as you consider new jobs. Taking a job for less money, that allows you to be happier, may be worth doing. In my experience, the happier you are the better you do and the more you end up being rewarded for that down the road.
- 5. Once your decision to find new employment is made you will find yourself noticing opportunities all around you. You will find yourself looking for potential leads from every conversation you hold. You will begin to attend events that you previously found boring because these events now represent the possibility of finding something new. Simply making the decision to find a new job opens your mind up to the field of potential and you will quickly find your energy returning and your happiness level going up.
Afraid To Quit Your Job? Decades Of Research Says You Should Do It Anyway
- You know it already, but it helps when science confirms it: It hurts a lot more when you change your mind and get it wrong than it does when you stick to your guns and get it wrong.
- Why? Changing your mind and getting it wrong leads to more of a funny thing called “counterfactual thinking.” That’s a big, fancy word to describe what happens when you beat yourself up for getting something wrong. Maybe it should be called “If Only I Hadn’t…” Syndrome
- When you visualize what a successful career looks like, you can objectively look at the options in front of you. All of a sudden, some choices look a lot more right and others more wrong. Maybe there are still many options—and plenty of doubt—but only a few are easily available to you. Once you’ve defined what success actually looks like, you might still not know what the right answer is, but science is on your side if you decide to make a change.
- Oh, and if you only want more money… plenty of research suggests you should be changing jobs frequently!
The One Thing You Must Do the Moment You Quit or Get Fired (Purpose Finding 101)
- Life transitions are super fragile times - and very vulnerable
- Also some of the only and most powerful opportunities we have to explore what we really want to do
- The problem is that we tend to make awful decisions when grounded in fear. Long-term thinking flies out the window and we immediately start thinking survival. “What can I do right this second to solve this seemingly terrible problem?” But in sprinting for an immediate solution, we can completely miss the chance of a lifetime.
- The one thing you absolutely MUST do after quitting a job or getting fired? NOTHING.
- For at least the first 2-3 weeks (and ideally a few months) DO NOT do any of the following:
- Find any job you can get your hands on
- Start interviewing like crazy
- Take the first offer that comes to you
- Panic and run around in circles
- It's never as bad as you think, and you have more options than you realize
- If you can stop freaking out, you can realize this is a rare opportunity to be intentional about what you want to do next.
- Travel, visit a retreat, meditate, write
- Do a cleanse or take on a physical challenge
- Get inspired
- Dream - What did you use to imagine before the world told you it wasn’t possible?
- Learn about yourself
- Realize you have the biggest opportunity in the world
7 Lessons Quitting a Job I Hated Taught Me About Life
- 1. Fear will make your excuses make sense
- 2. Doubt will make you complacent
- 3. Negative people will hold you back
- 4. Have some clue what you’re doing - come up with a plan, take small daily steps
- 5. Plan for the bad times
- 6. Silence any self-limiting beliefs
- 7. Don't look back